Time passed, and the once obedient children suddenly changed. It used to focus on parents, now friends are the benchmark. Both children and parents, indeed are swinging. Children often change. While he was a child, for a moment he insisted on being called a teenager. Parents also swing. Career, past, present, and so on. Sometimes these fellow swings create friction.

We also compete quickly with technology. We also compete with the development of the child's soul and the internal conditions of the household. Children's brain development during adolescence reaches abstract and critical abilities. We are often surprised by this development.

However, how old is the teenager? There used to be a BKKBN benchmark, 11-19 years old. But now, data from Yayasan Kita and Buah Hati shows that even 9 years old girls have menstruated, 11-12 year old boys have wet dreams (but according to Islamic teachings, once a child reaches puberty, he is immediately considered an adult). So, the age of 9 years is considered a teenager.

Hormonal changes happen so fast. Many things suddenly become sensitive. This is an emotional issue. Not to mention, trend developments. What worries 4th, 5th, and 6th graders no longer is because of the Final Exams, but the status on social media: Shame and stress because no one likes them. At the same time, the learning load is getting heavier! A myriad of homework, pursued by tutoring, creates an additional burden on parents and children. So, how do you prepare yourself for all of this?

At that time, parents are generally climbing their careers, trying to own their own homes, attracting funds, and so on. No other family problems have hit yet. If the fused husband and wife break easily like the tips of the index and thumb nails touching each other. So how far do we give a part of ourselves, merge with a partner, in order to find a way out of our children's problems and challenges? So, parents have to be tough first, solid, and match, so that the children are tough too.

Then, to what extent is the limit of our children's independence? Stop the habit of taking care of everything for the child. As a teenager, many of us are surprised when children are not independent and irresponsible. In fact, are we the helicopter type or the trainer sergeant? That is, independence is something that must be trained from the start. Where are we now? Do we still have time and energy slots for our teenagers?